i regularly get in the mood to write (stories, memories, journal entries, lists of some sort, etc). but, then i find my self feeling unable to actually start writing whatever it may be, due to the fact i subconsciously set this unrealistic goal before even attempting to start:
‘it has to be perfect’
now, this not only entirely prevents my brain from exercising and utilizing it’s full creative potential, but it also gives the impression that writing (which is something i genuinely enjoy doing) is an obligation, or chore. since i’ve established the same objective for a wide range of circumstances, without intending to, the same is true for various additional activities in my life. one being art, notably sketching/drawing, which is extremely therapeutic for me (when there aren't unreasonably high expectations).
after this happening way too many times, and bringing me very unsatisfactory results (aka no results, in this case), i’ve decided that this has to come to a stop.
difficult habits can take anywhere between 18-254 days to form. and seeing as my ‘habit’ shouldn’t be a terribly hard thing to get rid of/change, it’ll probably take around 14 days. so, this is my new realistic and healthy goal. - how am i going to do this, you may ask? well, every time i notice these thoughts forming in my skull, i’ll just completely shut it off, or reassure my self by thinking, “do you really want to do this right now? because if not, you’re not obligated to do so.”
anyway, these are some of the odd and random thoughts that are running around in my head today.
if you, or a loved one, experience UGS (unrealistic goal syndrome), i highly recommend this self help program. 100% guaranteed amazing outcomes once habit has formed (such as a well-drawn tree that you know for sure was for pleasure, not for duty).
goodnight.
